What is Tantra I
have been asked to write my ideas about Tantra. I am the author of
Everywoman a Goddess: Everyman
a Hero in Her Service, which details the creation of my spiritual path
which I call Tantric Kabbalah. Living in the physical world is very
difficult sometimes. There are so many forces that act upon the individual
especially males to fragment them. A fragmented person is easily
manipulated and made to work as a soldier or slave wage laborer or cog
in the corporate machine. I could not survive in such a state and
needed to find wholeness. Tantric Kabbalah unites science, spirituality
and sexuality and so I will describe what I understand Tantra to be as
Tantra has manifested within my life and spirit.
The perception about Tantra is that Tantra is identical with a special
kind of sex that delivers incredible orgasms, beyond pleasure that is available
in the usual manner. This is true, but it is not true if you are
seeking hedonistic physical pleasure. Tantra comes from the Sanskrit
and means to weave. Kabbalah comes from the Hebrew and means to receive.
When you combine Tantra and Kaballah you get two poles, a positive giving
pole and a negative receiving pole analagous to what exists in electricity.
Tantra is not about physical sex at all, it is about energy. Tantra
is about a different kind of energy than electricity or magnetism, although
electromagnetism is very much involved in the physiology of human bodies
(which is a part of sex). It is critical to have two poles,
giving (typically considered male) and receiving (typically considered
female) because it is not the poles that matter but the flow of energy
that is important. As an aside gender identity and sexual orientation
is not important in establishing these poles. Tantra is about energy and
specifically the flow of energy and about mastering and sharing this flow
between human beings.
In order to access Tantra it is necessary to understand what it means
to be a human being. The dominant world view is that human beings
are only materialist beings. We are bags of human flesh that are sentient,
with self awareness, but we are part and parcel of the material world.
This materialist view dominates scientific thought and science is behind
all the technology that makes our world work. Once upon a time magic
and shamans dominated everyday life because they were thought to know the
secrets of getting what you wanted. Science has replaced magic and
shamans as far as the everyday world because technology is much better
at giving us what we want from the physical world. When you put your
key in your car and turn the switch the engine turns on and you can drive
yourself wherever you want. This is marvelous. Despite these
benefits of technology many people find that technology is not enough and
are again seeking the world of magic and shamans.
If you hold and believe this materialist world view you will not
be able to understand or ever master Tantra. Since I experience tantric
sex magic on a daily basis and share bliss and ecstasy with my beloved
tantric partner I know that Tantra is indeed real, and as real as science.
To understand, practice and then master Tantra expand your materialist
view to include the Spirit World. As a retired pediatrician and scientific
medical researcher I fully and completely embrace science and scientific
method. Authors such as Mario Beauregard in The Spiritual Brain have
documented that spiritual experience is a real brain state that can be
documented by modern neuroscientific methodology. In fact the evidence
suggests strongly that materialism does not conform to the observed data
as well as a world view that incorporates both the Physical World and the
Spiritual World.
Think of ourselves as beings that live in two worlds. Now we
can access all sorts of resources that are not available to beings that
are solely physical. For me the easiset way to experience and master
both the physical and spiritual worlds is through Tantra. About seventeen
years ago, after a lot of psychological, spiritual and sexual work I discovered
spontaneously that my hands would vibrate during sex with love and that
my partner felt this vibration. Experiencing these vibrations brought
her to a new level of ecstasy. I learned to control my magical ability
through my mantra and this story is fully described in my book.
Now there might be some men who would like to develop that ability because
they think it would be fun, feel good, and make them very popular with
women. All of that is true, however if that is your motivation it
probably won’t work. Tantra is not about becoming sexually powerful.
Becoming sexually powerful is a side effect, just as having your kundalini
awakened is a side effect. The kundalini is a very important subject
within Tantra.
To me Tantra is about discovering the truth. To me that Truth
is that there is a consciousness outside of our separate existence that
is available to all human beings. Further this consciousness is the
source of all love, all nurturance, and all creativity. This consciousness
is the Divine Feminine, the Goddess, the Schechinah. To me a crucial
aspect of Tantra is that making love is the purest and most powerful form
of worship. When I make love to my tantric crone goddess I am making
love to the Schechinah.
The part of me that is Divine is of the same substance as the Schechinah
and therefore it is perfectly natural to have Divine Intercourse with the
Goddess. My partner at the same time is both Physical and Spiritual
so therefore all of our parts are integrating within a great mozaic of
bliss. This bliss is an energetic flow between me, my tantric crone
goddess partner and the Schechinah. It is multilevel and results
in incredible orgasms.
Spiritual experience is ineffable and the words I use above are just symbols
that I use to describe my experience in a way to share that experience
with you. My experience is no substitute for your experience.
My path and my description of my path are merely an encouragement for you
to follow your own and make your own discoveries. Having said that
you need to be able to start. I want to give you a few suggestions
to help you start.
The most important point of all is that Tantra exists within relationship.
You can not have a flow of Divine energy in anonymous physical encounters.
Tantra will not happen in addictive sex but only within sex with intimacy,
sex within relationship. The greatest barrier to Tantra is for men
to not be emotionally available and to not listen to women. The voice
of the Goddess is feminine. To listen to the feminine voice is a
skill that a man can only develop within the context of a real relationship
with a real woman. Once you can listen to the feminine voice you
can listen to the voice of the Divine Feminine.
To practice Tantra a man must learn to develop some physical skills.
He must become familiar with the female orgasm. My partner’s being
is the Stradivarius I play with great skill to create beautiful orgasms
that can last for over an hour and which is the music we create together.
Tantra is about the female orgasm. To facilitate this a man must
learn to adore the woman’s body and discover how worshipping that body
produces orgasms of varying types and intensity. I write about this
in great detail in my book but briefly I will share a few hints.
Essential to Tantra for a man is ejaculatory control. This is just
a fact. Stimulation of a woman’s body must be done with love and
nurturance and as an access to worshipping the Great Mother Goddess herself.
Men must not focus on their own satisfaction but on the woman’s satisfaction.
Satisfying the woman in ways of deeper and deeper ecstasy and bliss is
only the beginning. Breast stimulation is essential to changing the
way the brain is organized. I could write a book just on worshipping
a woman’s breasts. Traveling from nipple to clitoris, to goddess
spot and then cervix all using your mouth and hands prior to intercourse
makes the orgasms of intercourse much more powerful and satisfying.
When you can feel your hands and lingam vibrate in tantric service to the
Great Mother Goddess then your physical body is feeling your greater spiritual
being.
There are so many women in the world who are mature, highly sexual
and seeking a man who can satisfy her. Discover Tantra and bring
love, and happiness into the world. It is a great service and the
world needs this so very much.
Love and light, namaste and shalom,
Stuart
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